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New Relationships – Why Would You Ever Hire A Mediator?
To tell you the truth, I would be surprised if we are hired for this very often. It is such a new idea. I expect that the bliss of new love is always so wonderful and cozy and amazing and the
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Divorce Mediation – How it should work
It’s a part of life. But when divorce becomes part of your life it can be simplified into two categories: Needs to happen and Should not happen Everyone who gets to the divorce stage either thinks it should happen or thinks it
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What is mediation? The answer is not the obvious one.
Mediation Explained Fully Ultra simplified definition: Mediation is to be in the middle to help people agree. This is what that looks like and it is definitely an oversimplification of what can be a profound experience that is lifechanging for all involved. Standard
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Hello world!
My name is Cydian and I am a mediator. I've been thinking a lot about what my philosophy as a mediator is. And how to explain what I do. Here's what I've come up with, feel free to add on after
Our Testimonial
He is incredibly patient
He is incredibly patient
To say that Cyd and his mediation work saved my life is not hyperbole. My ex and I were in the midst of a quarantine fueled, messy divorce with 4 kids and a co owned and co founded business as potential cannon fodder. We were both motivated to handle things amicably, and to stay out of lawyer’s offices, but we were each struggling to see how that could be possible with so many raw emotions bubbling to the surface. Cyd saw it through, and that was no easy job. I will advise you to LISTEN when he suggests taking it slow. The very real and serious conflict and problems you have between you didn’t build overnight, and untangling them will take care, attention and time. I didn’t really know what to expect going in, but I’ll admit that I didn’t expect it to take as long as it did, and I was definitely resistant at first. I wanted it over, because my mindset at the time was to have as little communication with my ex as possible. Now I can say we are very friendly and cordial, and co-parenting with him and his partner is a breeze. I don’t feel I need to avoid it because doing it doesn’t trigger me. Cyd and his approach to mediation is 100% why that is true. He is incredibly patient, and moreover, so even keeled. My ex and I are passionate, loud and naturally combative with one another. Cyd calmly lead us out of awful interactions, helped us boil our needs and desires down to objective brass tacks, and left the emotion out of it, which honestly still feels like some kind of magic work. If you know either of us, you probably can’t actually believe that we were able to settle anything emotionlessly and objectively, but I’m telling you! This is the incredible skill that Cyd wields. He is meant to do this work, and I don’t wish anyone to be in these sorts of difficult situations, but as we are human and they are unavoidable, I truly do wish that everyone could have Cyd on their side. I couldn’t recommend a better mediator!!!
Rosa
Cydian helped my ex and I avoid legal fees
Cydian helped my ex and I avoid legal fees
Cydian helped my ex and I avoid legal fees. We were lucky and we only had one point of contention but it was big enough that he was going to get a lawyer. I thought it was impossible. It literally was completely resolved in 4hours and saved me 10k easily.
Marie
Cydian did an amazing job
Cydian did an amazing job
Cydian did an amazing job helping me mediate a separation from my employer who was firing me for something I had no control over. We both left the table satisfied and I got severance. He wasn't representing me and as a mediator he was shockingly impartial even though he was hired by the company. I was surprised and it deserves some recognition.