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WHO WE HELP

Familes

Especially families with children.  We want families to be able to stay together and if they a separating or getting a divorce we want them to make their children’s lives better for it, not worse.  That is our focus. 

COUPLES JUST STARTING

In rare cases, new couples may reach out to us. We think this should happen more often. The single largest source of problems in a relationship of any age is communication. Especially communication about agreements. Implicit vs explicit agreements is the difference between anxious vs enjoyable relationships.

Saving some lawyer fees

Our second goal is to save you alot of money by letting you get all your separation agreements done and out of the way.  That is where the big cost of divorce is, disagreement.

FAMILIES DIVORCING OR SEPARATING

Sometimes you can’t stay together and it is just better to separate. When that happens, it is often at a time of already heightened stress and lawyers may be getting involved. But our first goal is to make the separation stabilizing for the children if there are any. This may seem like a contradiction but if separation is needed, it may be because it is the best choice for everyone, and stability can come from clear and amicable agreements.

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NOTHING IS TOO UNUSUAL

If you have a relationship with many people, and you are all upset at each other, if you have a close friend you are fighting with, if you have a business partner you suddenly can’t trust, if you don’t get along with your grandpa, if a brother or sister hurt you, etc, those are all situations where mediation can help! The same rules of relationships apply to all of them and we do have experience with each of these.

NOTHING IS TOO UNUSUAL

Heinlein called love “That condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” Albert Ellis said “The art of love is largely the art of persistence.” The truth is that it is not the same for everyone. Relationships work because agreements that are made are the kinds of agreements that each person desires to create and create again each and every day. That can change, but sometimes it was just never agreed to in the first place.

Our Testimonial

He is incredibly patient

He is incredibly patient

To say that Cyd and his mediation work saved my life is not hyperbole. My ex and I were in the midst of a quarantine fueled, messy divorce with 4 kids and a co owned and co founded business as potential cannon fodder. We were both motivated to handle things amicably, and to stay out of lawyer’s offices, but we were each struggling to see how that could be possible with so many raw emotions bubbling to the surface. Cyd saw it through, and that was no easy job. I will advise you to LISTEN when he suggests taking it slow. The very real and serious conflict and problems you have between you didn’t build overnight, and untangling them will take care, attention and time. I didn’t really know what to expect going in, but I’ll admit that I didn’t expect it to take as long as it did, and I was definitely resistant at first. I wanted it over, because my mindset at the time was to have as little communication with my ex as possible. Now I can say we are very friendly and cordial, and co-parenting with him and his partner is a breeze. I don’t feel I need to avoid it because doing it doesn’t trigger me. Cyd and his approach to mediation is 100% why that is true. He is incredibly patient, and moreover, so even keeled. My ex and I are passionate, loud and naturally combative with one another. Cyd calmly lead us out of awful interactions, helped us boil our needs and desires down to objective brass tacks, and left the emotion out of it, which honestly still feels like some kind of magic work. If you know either of us, you probably can’t actually believe that we were able to settle anything emotionlessly and objectively, but I’m telling you! This is the incredible skill that Cyd wields. He is meant to do this work, and I don’t wish anyone to be in these sorts of difficult situations, but as we are human and they are unavoidable, I truly do wish that everyone could have Cyd on their side. I couldn’t recommend a better mediator!!!

Rosa

Cydian helped my ex and I avoid legal fees

Cydian helped my ex and I avoid legal fees

Cydian helped my ex and I avoid legal fees. We were lucky and we only had one point of contention but it was big enough that he was going to get a lawyer. I thought it was impossible. It literally was completely resolved in 4hours and saved me 10k easily.

Marie

Cydian did an amazing job

Cydian did an amazing job

Cydian did an amazing job helping me mediate a separation from my employer who was firing me for something I had no control over. We both left the table satisfied and I got severance. He wasn't representing me and as a mediator he was shockingly impartial even though he was hired by the company. I was surprised and it deserves some recognition.

SH